singelisilverslippers:

myothercarisauhaul:

faxxmachine:

platovevo:

real power is going outside knowing you look ugly and also knowing that if you chose to perform femininity in accordance with patriarchal standards you could look attractive, but genuinely prefering to look ugly and not feeling bad about it. feels good feels organic

Me: shows up to work merely clean and well dressed like all the males there

Boss: you look tired

Me: 🖕

I was in a job orientation once and the instructor was talking about appropriate work attire and literally said “and women….please wear some makeup” and everyone laughed. I, who was not wearing makeup nor do I ever, raised my hand and asked “What’s the required amount of makeup for men?” And that was an amazingly wonderful awkward silence.

I was on my walk to work yesterday morning and halfway there, realized I had put moisturizer on my face but had COMPLETELY forgotten to put on my usual makeup.

No concealer, no eyeliner, no powder, nada.

And I had to physically stop myself from turning around – was I literally going to be late to the office just so I could go back home and put on some makeup??

And it made me think about how much I use makeup as a security blanket, and how insecure I feel about my own face. And how that plays in to patriarchal standards and misogynistic beauty norms. So I told myself, “Okay, singeli, think of this as an experiment. You are going to work without makeup today. You can do it! You’ll be fine!”

And you know what?

I did, and I was.

After a few hours, I completely forgot that I wasn’t wearing any makeup! It was great!

So I think I’m going to start wearing no makeup to work once a week, or maybe just in general reducing the makeup I wear on a daily basis when I’m going “out” (aka meeting up with people and not just running errands in the neighborhood). Makeup should be a fun accessory to highlight the things I love about myself, or to try something outrageous and cool. It shouldn’t be something I use to hide all the things I dislike about myself. I shouldn’t feel naked without it.

I think I’m going to try a “No Makeup November.” As a reminder to myself that I am enough just the way I am.

I’ve spent a lot of my years as a makeup junkie. I used to follow a lot of makeup channels on youtube and I know a lot about prestige and drugstore brands, good dupes, etc. Then I got a job where I have to get up early and I could get up early to put makeup on or I could sleep an extra 20 minutes.

I don’t wear much makeup anymore.

Eventually I realized part of the reason I love makeup is because I like pretty colors. Because of all the instaglam YT bs I had absorbed I kept thinking if I was going to wear makeup to have pretty colors on my face I had to go all out. If I’m going to wear lipstick I need to wear foundation and blush and concealer etc. The first time I put on bright lipstick without anything else on my face was so liberating. The last selfie I posted here I am wearing blood red lipstick and mascara. That’s it. And I rarely wear makeup to work. I have do many more selfies barefaced and I’ve gotten used to and actually LIKE my bare face.

I hate this idea that we’re not “put together” if we’re not wearing makeup. It’s concentrated bullshit.