#little fic writer things: the unnaturally slowly dragging minutes after you post A Thing and start mentally calculating with vague manicness how long it will take anyone to finish reading the thing before you get any feedback/comments/responses and gently panicking in the meantime because What If It Actually Sucked After All
this has happened to me more times than i can count — i’ve found out when they ejaculate on me (a lot of times on my face without asking) that they took the condom off somewhere in the middle of sex. recently, a man i regularly hooked up with told me he “couldn’t come with a condom on” and i asked how he did it when we had sex before and he laughed and said, “i took it off less than half way through.”
this is something men don’t take seriously, but women are forced to — we’re the ones who have to get the plan b, who have to go get tested, who have to stress about what will happen next. men minds turn off the second after they orgasm.
it is absolutely non-consensual to take a condom off without the sex partner knowing.
Men seem to have no idea how fucking cruel this is, those weeks we spend afterward, panicking over whether we might be pregnant and what we’re going to do about it if we are and what if we caught something? Nah, they probably do have a sense of it; they just don’t fucking care, or they get off on the idea of putting a woman in distress weeks or more after the sexual act has ended.
You are scum if you fucking do this, condone this. End of discussion.
They don’t do it only to us, women. My sister is a doctor and gay men have gone to her consults asking for exams and some have actually shared how their latest hookup removed the condomn without their knowledge and so they were scared to have an STD. Anyone that does this to anyone deserves no respect.
give them jailtime
Yeaaaaah this is rape 🙁
I recall one of the first sex tips i ever got being “always reach back every now and then to check for the condom” & it’s so valid
Robert E. Lee himself refused to wear his confederate uniform after the confederacy’s defeat in the American civil war. At his funeral he was not buried in it and no one in attendance was permitted to wear theirs either. He also declared that his confederate battle flag (what we now call “the confederate flag”) never be raised again and that it was a flag of treason.
but Also the President of the South, Jefferson Davis felt the same way.
Basically, “Get the fuck over it.” We lost, we’re a part of this country, this flag signifies an old identity. Cut that shit out and move on.
I recently found out one of my ancestors fought for the Confederacy. About the only thing that pleases me about this knowledge is the fact that he also served in the US army after the war.
The FBI and the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives are investigating a bombing that took place on Saturday at the Dar Al-Farooq Islamic Center in suburban Minneapolis while worshippers were performing their morning prayers.
The FBI confirmed that the blast was caused by an improvised explosive device, or IED, that destroyed the imam’s office, shattered windows and smoked up the entire building.
Minnesota Gov. Mark Dayton called the bombing an “act of terrorism” when he met with local leaders at the mosque on Sunday.
No one was injured in the blast and authorities are unsure of the motive or culprit behind it.
What is for certain is that this is not an isolated incident. The mosque was a frequent target for menacing voicemails, hateful emails and threatening anti-Muslim letters.
Some activists are seeking a condemnation from President Donald Trump, but others say that alone won’t quell this latest surge of anti-Muslim violence.
In interviews, experts tell Mic that the Dar al-Farooq bombing is a byproduct of decades-long counterterrorism programs aimed at preventing Muslims from being radicalized rather than protecting them from the threat of radical anti-Muslim extremists. Read more (8/8/17)
Feel better! One of my earliest memories is burning my hand on the pot-bellied stove we used for heating. I could never convince Mom that I’d tripped and fallen rather than touching the stove on purpose. Had the scar for like 10 years.
Thanks <33 It does feel a lot better than it did last night.
Your story reminds me of a girl I used to know who had a burn scar across the entire surface of the back of her hand from a kitchen accident. I remember being like 7 years old and weirdly fascinated by it.
honestly if anyone ever tells you that academia is fueled by anything other than passion and bitterness they are lying. so many papers get written because someone read something shitty about a topic they love and had to set everyone straight on their bullshit
I wrote an entire research paper/presentation because the author of a book we read in that class insulted William Herschel and mocked him for thinking the moon was occupied (in the 18th century! Like he could have possibly known differently, asshole.) and never once mentioned that his discoveries doubled the known size of the solar system and that he discovered the first planet found since antiquity.
Dude was an asshole to one of my history crushes. I couldn’t let that stand.
My middle school teacher’s highly negative and over simplified trashing of Poe and his work- using censored ( bizarrely- it just made things less rotty, and descriptive, and took out all the cool vocab) and abridged highlights of his work- and failing to mention that his BIOGRAPHY WAS WRITTEN BY HIS PRACTICAL NEMESIS.
Not a perfect man, not a perfect author- but you don’t get to just lazily dismiss his importance -and the validity of horror fiction- and get away with it.
Did so much reading and research just to give a presentation telling her to back the fuck off. Why I know the Conquerer worm by heart.
Oh man I had a teacher like this in college. My regular humanities professor went on sabbatical in the middle of the semester to study abroad for a few weeks for her PhD and the sub they brought in was the worst. Not only did she just decide to toss our professor’s dictated schedule which had us study the Baroque era in order to give a bunch of super patriotic (but pretty historically inaccurate) lectures on America where like nothing of artist value is happening amongst the colonists. She ditched the Baroque to talk about Paul Revere and crap. (Oh and did we talk AT ALL about Native American art, which might have at least justified the detour? NOPE! Of course not.)
Her reasons for this were “Ugh I just hate the Baroque period.”
Well, in that class we had to split into groups and choose a time period to study and each group gave a class long lecture on the art, music, and theatre of that era, and I chose the Baroque because I LOVE it. I led the presentation. This was my first semester in college. I’d had 2 semesters of AP art history the year before, passed with flying colors, and this class was a watered down version of that so I breezed through it. I was also still in the middle of the Great Teenage Depression stage in my life, had been a full-time straight A AP student who went to community college even though I could have walked into any state university in Texas, that’s how bad my depression was. So basically I was a complete smartass with senioritis so bad it lasted into my college years.
And I fucking love Baroque art.
You bet your ass I told the sub that. Like right to her face. Pointedly said “I happen to LOVE Baroque art” and then led an impassioned lecture on it and how awesome it is. And I had plenty of Artemisia Gentileschi, who for the uninitiated, painted a series of paintings that were just Judith and Holofernes. So I made this incompetent substitute sit there and squirm while I lectured about sexism and injustice while there’s a very bloody painting of a woman sawing a man’s head off his body covering the wall across from her.
Well when our actual professor got back, she asked how the sub was. I wasted no time in telling my professor that the sub was an incompetent hack who had no business teaching us and that she threw out the lesson plans to do her own thing, but don’t worry, the entire class knows all about the Baroque thanks to me. And after class, I told the professor about the sub wanting to skip Baroque because she doesn’t like it, then I told her what I did during the presentation.
My professor looked like she wanted to high five me.
honestly if anyone ever tells you that academia is fueled by anything other than passion and bitterness they are lying. so many papers get written because someone read something shitty about a topic they love and had to set everyone straight on their bullshit
I wrote an entire research paper/presentation because the author of a book we read in that class insulted William Herschel and mocked him for thinking the moon was occupied (in the 18th century! Like he could have possibly known differently, asshole.) and never once mentioned that his discoveries doubled the known size of the solar system and that he discovered the first planet found since antiquity.
Dude was an asshole to one of my history crushes. I couldn’t let that stand.
*hugs*
The Paradox Machine 