Is sons calling their dads “sir” an actual thing that some people do in America?
Yep. Daughters do it too. Like if my dad or mom calmly name I’ll say sir or ma’am depending on who it is
I seriously thought this was a TV thing.
That’s so……weird…and a little scary.
I’ve asked students of multiple nationalities, I think this is just a US thing.
And it’s so…why?
If you don’t call them sir/ma’am then it’s implied that you are speaking to an equal, and so it’s disrespectful because they are not your equal.
You also have to call bosses/managers/anyone above you in employment by sir/ma’am or it has the same connotation of disrespect.
It’s like Victorian class structures or something.
It’s just mum or dad and your boss’s first name. Even in my first job at 16 I called my boss by their first name.
Only thing we ever do is call teachers ‘sir’ and ‘miss’ and I’m not even a fan or that. We don’t even call police ‘sir’.
It’s OK to refer to your mom and dad as “mom” and “dad” and say that to get their attention, but after that it’s always supposed to be sir/ma’am.
Where I live, calling your boss by their first name (unless you’re literally their close friend) is a serious no-no. Like just thinking of that makes a chill run down my back. At the very least, you call bosses by their last name with Mr/Ms/Mrs in front.
And not calling police “sir” could very well end up getting them really angry. Anything that questions their authority over you, bosses/parents/police, all of them, gives you a big chance of getting them angry.
I mean it just sounds like you’re telling me all Americans are predisposed to megalomania and abuse of authority 🤷♂️
I think it depends on where you grow up/live? I have never called my parents sir/ma’am and I definitely have never called my boss anything other than their name. The only time I’ve called anyone sir/ma’am is a police officer.
It’s actually a southern and/or military thing. No one where I live uses those honorifics except military families.
I only use sir or ma’am when I’m serving a customer at my museum, basically.
I called my dad ‘sir’ once and he told me if I ever spoke to him like that again, he’d ground me. I may have been saying it sarcastically, but he does not want to be called ‘sir’
This is 100% not done in California outside of military families – but California has it’s own rules lol
idk bout y’all but this don’t happen where i live
I only see it in WA in military families. It’s polite to call adults you’re interacting with but don’t know well ‘sir’ or ‘ma’am’ but it’s not a heavily enforced social nicety. When I hear it in family usage, it flags that family “probably very conservative, tread carefully”.
Definitely standard practice when interacting with police, but again, probably not someone I know well enough to call by name.
Formality in the work place tends to vary depending on the work place, and also to how high the higher-ups are.
I’m from Texas, and no, I don’t do that. Actually, my mom and one of my cousins HATE to be called ma’am because it makes them feel old. When I was working retail, I was only ever told to call one of my managers Ms. Last Name. Everyone else I was on a first name basis with.
I will say that I started calling them Ms. First Name. That is totally a southern thing. So like, Ms. Wendy, Ms. Leslie, etc. I never did this with guys though. I’d called customers sir or ma’am, or say “Thank you ma’am or something like that.” But not like in a formal way. Idk, it’s a different tone.
But my parents? No way. That’s just…odd.
True story: my first job was at a fabric store and my customers were 90% women, so I had to work to stop myself from calling everyone ma’am. I must have called a dozen guys ma’am without thinking about it.
And with professors, it depends. I’ve had professors who absolutely wanted me to call them by their first names, and I’ve had professors who insisted on being called Dr. Last Name. First names for professors is hard for me, but I usually manage it.
Manners seem to be more of a Thing in the south (I could talk for 10 hours about the historical significance of that but I won’t start.) But calling your parents sir and ma’am is a new one on me.
The worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you aren’t disruptive, you don’t want any kind of attention, you don’t express yourself, you keep yourself to yourself – this makes you a pleasure to have in class, etc etc – and you start to believe it’s virtue. But you’re actually way behind your peers in normal social development, and who knows if you can ever catch up.
people love to talk about franz kafka’s surrealism, but as soon as you tell them his writing was specifically influenced by him being a multiply disabled jewish man who was bisexual, they become disinterested real fast
#seriously though no one believes me when I say that the metamorphosis is about disability
absolutely nobody can convince me that “the metamorphosis” is about anything BUT disability, ableism, and anti-semitism
like, you can literally look at kafka’s thoughts in his diaries and letters during the time he was writing it, and see him struggling with feeling physically and emotionally repulsive to people as his health was beginning to really decline, and the way his personality is shaped by paranoia, anxiety, and depression, as well as the obvious correlation between annihilation and anti-semitism
That last one is literally tripping me the fuck out.
I can see from the unfinished part that it’s 2D but I CAN’T look at the rest of it and not see a full 3D human. Like there are are perfectly rendered and real SHADOWS on the wall behind them HOW is that not photoshopped??
And they say the millennial generation is lazy and entitled.
Here’s a secret: it’s not OUR JOB to adapt to the market. It’s not OUR JOB to buy napkins and golf clubs and drive to the mall on the other side of town to make sure it doesn’t go out of business.
Did previous generations kill the horse and wagons after the car was invited? Did those lazy citizens kill the town crier by buying into that newfangled newspaper business?
What people want and are ready to spend their money on will change over time. Today we have different goals and different standards – like I will invite my friends over for dinner and instead of napkins I’ll put a roll of paper towels on the table. And my friends won’t clutch their pearls and hiss “you uncultured swine” at me, because we value that paper towels are cheap and efficient! Napkins may be pretty but some of them end up being unused, and I’ll have to throw them away after the dinner and it’s a fucking waste.
Did your mall end up as an empty husk outside of town because those pesky millennials buy all their clothes online now? You lucky son of a gun. Now you get to use your ~*IMAGINATION*~ and repurpose that ugly windowless box into something actually useful. Why not a nice office space? (x)
Or how about you make the old stores into cute micro apartments? I WOULD LOVE TO LIVE IN ONE OF THESE! (x)
Are the stores fine but the parking lot empty because those cheap hipsters would rather take a bus or bike to the mall instead of buying a car like regular people? Do like they did in Seattle and turn it into a fucking beautiful water treatment facility and park. (x)
This thing collects storm-water runoff to create and provide nutrients to small pools and green areas. It works like a natural creek that ALSO filters out pollutants that would damage the salmon population! AS A MILLENNIAL I CAN SAY THAT THIS IS SO FUCKING UP MY ALLEY YOU HAVE NO IDEA. I WOULD GO TO THAT MALL, BUY A COFFEE AND GO OUT TO LOOK AT THE BIRDS.
Actual fucking plovers. When was the last time a parking lot did something for the environment except gathering upp more roadkill for the scavengers?
I could also go into why no-one is watching shitty sitcoms or boring movies because we have access to so much media that we can filter out the generic stuff that doesn’t appeal to us, but that is an essay in itself. We are extremely capable on spending it on media that speaks to us though (hey this is unrelated but did you know that Wonder Woman has passed 570M$ worldwide?)
TLDR: Market powers are entitled and used to people spending an ever-increasing amount of money on their shitty products. When this trend turns they are too unimaginative and lazy to do something about it so instead they’ll whine about how their former customers are “killing” them.
They can either DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT or spend the rest of their days crying into their surplus napkins.
Yes.
Also, the idolized lifestyle of the 1950s-2000s was unsustainable. The bubble burst, and my generation inherited a ruined world whose elders refuse acknowledge that their prosperity came at our expense.
“van gogh ate yellow paint because-” he was suicidal, karen
“If Van Goah had antidepressants, we wouldn’t have his artwo-” We’d have a lot more of his work, Karen, and who the fuck cares about what we get from him he deserved to be well, karen.
Friendly reminder that we have first hand accounts from Van Gogh saying his art suffered when he was depressed, and that the time he spent in a mental hospital was the most productive of his life. “Starry Night” is literally the view outside his hospital room window. So even if you wanna buy into the “People are only as valuable as what they produce” mentality then getting Vinny on some Prozac is a win/win.
I’m off to bed but I just wanted to let you guys know that now that Arthur is in his crate for the night, Nebula has found his favorite tennis ball and is playing with it right in front of him, and he is really mad that I’m not doing anything about it.
The Paradox Machine 